HOW TO HANDLE CRITICISM
Dr. Miriam Adahan
ARE YOU ENGAGING IN HEAD-BANGING?
Dr. Miriam Adahan
For many years, scientists wondered why neglected children will sometimes bang their heads against their cribs or a wall. They concluded that the head-banging creates a kind of colorful light show in their brains which relieves their loneliness and boredom. To such children, the pain they arouse is preferable to the lack of stimualtion.
It is impossible to avoid criticism. We are judgmental of others and they are judgmental of us. That's life. We must do our utmost to avoid hurting people with our words. But what do we do when they hurt us? The following will help:
Kindness is an essential "Jewish" trait to the point where we are told to suspect that a cruel person is not really Jewish. The media constantly uplifts us with inspirational stories about saintly people who radiated love to their fellowman and did their utmost to avoid hurting others.
Megilas Esther prompted musings about how people often act like Achashverosh and Haman, forever vying for control, suspicious of possible intrigues, dealing with intense jealousies and engaging in power rituals.
THE PRICE OF NICE
Dr. Miriam Adahan
POWER PLAYS
Dr. Miriam Adahan